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One assignment in particular drives Chris to crying fits. It is a workbook in which a paragraph is read and then you are asked if you were in the situation of the main character, what would you think or do? I thought it was one of the most creative exercises I had come across for schoolwork. I couldn't understand why Chris got so frustrated. When I asked him about it, he replied "What I want to know is, what is the RIGHT answer?"
I try explaining that there were no right answers, for him just to write his ideas about the questions. It didn't fit into his definition of schoolwork. Answers are either right or wrong. It frightened me to hear him say this and watch him reject the notion of creative thought. Once again, I went to his teacher. She said that she really enjoys these workbooks, but that they were going to be dropped from the curriculum next year because too many teachers objected to having to correct them. It takes too much time. Again we were unable to come up with any solution to my concern about Chris' frustration with school.
Remember when I was a student teacher? At that time Chris was a year and a half old. I lived with a baby that was interested, curious and charmed with all that he could see and explore in his world. My students were high school age. They were basically divided into two groups in the drama classes. There were those that sat blankly. They were bored, waiting with cigarette in hand for the bell to ring. The rest were those who were "college-bound" and wanted to know what was required to get an A, and what materials would be tested. Since this was a theatre class I had a lot of freedom to open the class up in speech and movement. It was nearly an impossible task. Occasionally the students would forget themselves and we would have a lot of fun. This, of course, they assumed was a mistake, they were in school after all. It was a real eye-opening experience for me. Now I see Chris getting into the have-to-get-an-A group, and this is very distressing to me. I thought by helping at school, having parents interested in his learning, and a home rich in learning materials we could retain his love of learning. I'm starting to look critically at the educational system.
March '81-Camp Pendleton
The difference in our points of view continues to be a struggle between the principal and me. I simply won't accept that I can't bring Devin to class when Mrs. Doyle said it was fine. The children in the class like both Devin and me. Help is needed so much, and this is what I have always done. The principal seems to feel that once a rule is made, that it was final. He definitely feels that a principal of the school knows more than a mother. In an effort to change the situation Russ and I met with him, I wrote to and talked with the superintendent and asked teachers I knew to speak up in my behalf.
I am allowed to remain the room-mother for Shawn's class. The principal said I could come to school with Devin on special occasions. I interpreted that to mean to show up when I wanted and he could save face by not having to change his first decision on the matter. So I promptly resumed helping in Shawn's classroom and started in helping in Chris' classroom. After a few months I was told, through the teachers, that I was only allowed for parties and field trips.
During this struggle of wills, the principal told me that he had polled the teachers and they agreed with him on his ruling. He said that they would rather have a parent helper without any preschoolers. I immediately polled those teachers that I knew. They said that yes, they would rather have a helper without a preschooler, but better to have one with a child than no help at all. Each of the teachers I asked spoke with other teachers to ask their opinion on the matter. I concluded that the poll results, that the principal gave me, were simply what he wanted to tell me. And what's more I found out that the "poll" had been a couple of statements given at the beginning of a meeting before many people were listening. I couldn't help but wonder how one of my children would be treated if they were brought before the principal on the charge of lying. I felt the principal was lying to me about the results of the poll he took from the teachers.
For the first time I am seriously questioning the system, and wondering if it is possible to stay within the educational structure, while at the same time doing what I think is best for my children. My first question is, basically: is the system designed to benefit the children, or are the children being organized or adjusted to fit into the existing system? Now it is time that I step back from the struggle of trying to compromise with the principal and yet try not to compromise my ideas or ideals. I have been in tears trying to convince the principal of the common sense of my view.
April '81-Camp Pendleton
One of the big deciding factors, now that we are debating whether or not to begin homeschooling, was remembering the day that Chris simply didn't want to go to school. He stayed home for the day, just to have a day off.
He slept in and read in bed. He played the piano for a while. He did lots of writing, and then went out and played with the neighborhood kids when they came home from school. I remember thinking that this would be a typical day in his life if he didn't go to school. From what I could tell it was a productive time of self-directed learning. Plus he wasn't stressed or tired at the end of the day. It seemed a perfect way for me to ease the tension in my life caused by his moodiness after school, and a worthwhile way for him to spend his time.
April '81-Camp Pendleton
I am searching for an alternative that would make both the children and me happier with the school situation. I called the nearest Montessori school. Both the cost and the distance made this option unacceptable.
Recently, I heard about a friend that I know through La Leche League, who has six children. She's now keeping them, not sending them back to school after Spring break. They will be beginning their homeschooling. A couple of weeks after she started this I had the opportunity to speak with her. I was interested to find out the how, why, and results so far, of their situation. I came home with ideas bouncing around in my head.
June '81-Camp Pendleton
I went to school and watched the activities from a critical point of view rather than an accepting one. Is it fair that all of the children have to be stopped, made to wait until one child could be quieted, gotten in line or made to conform in some way? After the administrative details, the breaks, the lining up, the discipline, how much actual time is devoted to learning? How much activity is geared to the mythical average child, and how much is actually helpful to my child? Could this learning be done in a fraction of the time, with reduced effort if the boys just stayed at home? Would they miss the other kids? Would they miss the achievement recognition they received at school?
Part of me is unbelievably excited at the freedom and the potential that idea of homeschooling has unleashed. The other conditional, structured part of me can't really believe that children just can NOT go to school. I mean, wasn't it just part of growing up an American along with apple pie?
Russ and I talked the idea over, and we also asked the kids what they thought. Chris is sure it was a fine idea. Shawn isn't as confidant that it will work. What we decided was that we will think about it over the summer, and probably start homeschooling in the fall of 1981. After all if it doesn't work the worst thing that could happen will be that the kids will return to school, and have some make-up schoolwork to do. Since both children are at least one grade level ahead in school, I figure that we can even mark time for an entire year, and still not set back Chris and Shawn's educational path.
With incredible luck, timing or karma my good friend Cecily Parsons is also struggling with doubts about her children's schooling. Together we found out about a workshop where John Holt is the featured speaker. I don't know if you are familiar with his work. He is an educator and author that first tried to reform the school system from within, and now has decided homeschooling children may be a much better way to educate them. He has recently started a newsletter called "Growing Without Schooling". We both registered and went to the workshop, anxious to hear more about this whole idea. How did you do it? Was it legal? What were other people doing once they had started teaching their children at home?
Cecily and I both came home from the workshop convinced that this was the avenue of education that we were looking for. We found out that to meet the legal requirements of the state of California we simply needed to write the Department of Education and request an affidavit to start a private school. This is a two-page form asking for information such as the name and address of our school, the number of children in each grade and dates of fire and health inspections. The form is sent upon request. It needs to be filed in early October. I think it is important to note that there are no state requirements for private schools other than this form, keeping attendance records, keeping records of businesses that your school deals with, and that the teachers are competent to teach the students. Those who homeschool feel that simply by being parents of our children we are competent to teach them. We are tuned into their learning because we live with them day in and day out. It is a continuation of the learning we had provided during their early years.
In 1980-81 our family struggled with the decision of whether or not to take our two oldest sons out of public school. In the end we decided to give homeschooling a try. What followed was over twenty years of our five children learning at home. The book Homeschooling Reflections discusses some of the experiences that occurred in that time. The book is written in letterform to my good friend, Mona Harris.
At the current time: Chris works as an accountant in his life with his wife and young daughter, Shawn will graduate in December with a degree in Theatre and is applying to graduate schools, Devin works as a journeyman in heating/air conditioning, Donika attends community college majoring in dance and music, and Trevor at fifteen still learns at home.
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